The notion of encountering your soulmate is something that is often dreamed about. It has formed the storyline for rom-coms for many years and it is a realization that someone who is a part of your life shares a deeper part of yourself.
A soulmate can be defined as “an individual who has a lasting impact on your life” according to Dr. Michael Tobin.
Dr. Tobin states that the finest universal definition of a soulmate is someone who feels deeply connected and bonded to another individual without it manifesting in a needy or codependent way.
Your soulmate should feel like a fellow journeyman (or woman) who is traveling alongside you. You may help each other to grow far beyond any self-imposed limitations and open each other’s capacity for love accordingly.
The primary principle in a soulmate relationship is that both parties have their needs equally met because a relationship of this sort should challenge each person to move from a place of selfishness to selfless giving.
How Do You Know If You Have Met Your Soulmate?
If you are wondering whether you have met your soulmate, you must first reach an understanding that all human beings are not meant to be alone and that the specific purpose of a functioning relationship is not just to merely meet our own needs.
Instead, we should see the relationship as a challenge in order to grow and help develop the potential of our partner as well as our own.
Dr. Tobin states that there is not a perfect age or stage of life when you should discover your soulmate and some will only discover a soulmate during the latter years of their life.
You may spend your days endlessly wondering whether you have met your soulmate on the subway but haven’t realized it until it was too late.
However, everything works according to timing and a deepened awareness of yourself will only increase your chances of finding your soulmate.
When you have a strengthened understanding that a relationship is not about controlling one another but is about equal give and take, then you will be in a position to naturally attract a soulmate who is able to assist you in your spiritual and mental development.
Otherwise, you may fall into a relationship with a faux-soulmate who does not actually have your best interest at heart as you will be seeking a respective partner from a place of desperation and need.
There is not one specific type of soulmate and this makes it difficult to identify any signs that you have met yours.
Most people will equate the term with purely romantic forms of love. However, there are many different types of soulmates that exist and these are not just restricted to the romantic kind.
Types of Soulmates
The most commonly referred to type of soulmate is the romantic kind. Dr. Tobin states that “romantic soulmates ignite one another’s passion during their time together, they have the capacity to bring one another to heights of physical and emotional pleasure.”
However, it is important to note that breakups can still result from passionate relationships as “passion can be a brief flame that burns hot and then extinguishes”.
In the instance of a soulmate, this flame will keep burning continuously because both parties are committed to keeping the fire burning during the time that they spend together.
A soul partner is an old friend that you automatically click with every time that you reignited. The period of time that you have spent apart has no bearing on the intensity and depth of the bond between you. These types of partners are often found in relationships between old school friends.
You will be aware that you have met a karmic soulmate when you become distinctly in sync about common causes and have a united sense of purpose.
Dr. Tobin states that “you’re both here to make a difference in the world, and your skills complement one another – you’re ideal partners to fulfill a shared mission.”
This type of relationship may not require deepened intimacy as it relies on placing your best selves forward in order to achieve a common goal that can hopefully bring change in the external world.
Companion soulmates can be simply described as those who can add balance to your life. These types of soulmates will help us to laugh through the pain and encourage us to be our real and authentic selves.
These soulmates do not abandon us easily and have a deepened understanding of our motivations.
A kindred soulmate is someone with who you agree on the vast majority of issues. You may share common hobbies and laugh at the same jokes.
There is no room for jealousy within this connection and you both share the same desire to empower yourselves towards truth and authentic love.
A soul contract occurs when two people are bound by a common goal/commitment to vocalize the truth and be entirely open with one another.
A soul contract may take the form of a married couple who stay together in spite of infidelity because the law of attraction pulls them together for an entire lifetime.
To conclude, you will know that you have met your soulmate when you have nurtured and loved yourself to the point that you desire the company of your soulmate without need or dependency.
Dr. Tobin says that “we must work at being loving and then we will receive love in return” and this is applicable in all instances. Your soulmate will help to encourage your growth and vice versa and this is one of the most stimulating connections that you will have during your lifetime.