Do you feel stuck in life? Dissatisfied? Powerless?
You’re not alone.
So many of us feel miserable. From systemic inequality, to trauma, illness, and tragedy, there is no shortage of unfair and unlucky circumstances to drag you down.
I‘m no stranger to misery. For years, I attacked my anxiety and depression with relentless self-destructive behavior. It was a vicious cycle of briefly feeling better– and then feeling much, much worse.
But one day, I realized I was ignoring the most powerful tool I have to create a life I actually enjoy– my subconscious mind.
Believe it or not, unlocking the power of your subconscious mind is just like seducing a lover.…
The Wild, Untamed Power of Your Subconscious Mind
Cognitive neuroscientists argue that your subconscious mind drives the vast majority of your actions, from regulating your bodily functions, to dreaming, to intuition, to automatic reflexes.
All your conscious behavior springs from your subconscious needs and beliefs. In turn, your conscious thoughts and actions feed back into your subconscious, and the cycle continues.
This powerful symbiotic relationship, between your conscious and subconscious mind, forms the basis of your entire life– every thought, emotion, and action.
Unfortunately, our society encourages us to live in a state of constant worry and attachment. Because of this, most people poison their subconscious minds with thoughts and actions that are not in alignment with their deepest needs and desires.
Misery ensues. Self-sabotage, addiction, depression, and anxiety may flare up. People live their entire lives disappointed with how everything turned out. Truly, this is a tragedy– and it’s all too common.
To avoid this fate, you need to take control of your inner world (your thoughts and feelings) so your outer world can move into better alignment.
Metaphorically speaking– you need to seduce your subconscious mind.
How To Forge A Powerful Partnership With Your Subconscious Mind
My big breakthrough happened when I fell in love with myself.
Not in the narcissistic sense, either. (At the time of publication, narcissism is fittingly defined on Wikipedia as the “pursuit of gratification from vanity or egotistic admiration of one’s idealized self image and attributes.”)
No– I fell in love with myself like a person falls in love with another person, slowly forming a deep and affectionate bond, with piqued interest blossoming naturally into ease and closeness.
I believe all strong relationships share three essential qualities– intimacy, kindness, and trust.
So I began to cultivate these qualities in my relationship with myself… and every aspect of my life soon felt infinitely more enjoyable and rewarding.
Step 1 – Deepen Intimacy
Intimacy: Affectionate closeness. Detailed knowledge. Deep understanding.
I gently opened up chapters of my life that had long been tucked away and needed to be revisited. I consciously enjoyed the feeling of being in my body, the feeling of simply being alive.
In return, I gained access to new dimensions of self-understanding and intuition. I learned how to pull myself back from the edge of anxiety– and gracefully pivot to feeling good again.
Two suggestions for enhancing intimacy with your subconscious:
- Lay yourself bare with journaling. Write with the intention to examine your deepest beliefs, vulnerabilities, and desires. Write the truths that are most difficult or painful to write– and write those truths as compassionately and honestly as you possibly can. Feel the feelings you’ve delayed feeling; your journal is a safe place to go there.
- Notice something lovely in your environment, and let it really sink in. Genuinely give thanks for the beauty you are capable of perceiving–especially the tiniest details that often go unnoticed. I love to notice how sunlight caresses the wall, the sounds of nature outside, and how refreshing it feels to drink a glass of water.
Step 2 – Show Kindness
Kindness: Gentleness. Warmth. Helpfulness.
I started noticing patterns of negative self-talk. I practiced speaking to myself with compassion, performative at first– but later genuine. I exaggerated my joy whenever joy arose, and soon that became my natural response.
I discovered that our natural state is to be kind to ourselves first and foremost. That all other love springs from this well of pure self-love. I learned that my mind shapes my reality just as much as reality has already shaped my mind.
Two practices for showing kindness to your subconscious:
- Lean into feel-good emotions when they arise. Ride the wave of your natural happiness as long as you possibly can. If you like the feeling of the sun on your face, stop what you’re doing, tilt your face up to the sky, and smile widely. If you‘re amused, let yourself laugh freely with joy.Dance shamelessly. Stretch slowly. Breathe deeply. Enjoy the experience of being in your body and in your mind.
- Practice cognitive reframing. Recast your negative thoughts into more positive alternatives– and really focus on believing in the positive angle. Always identify and celebrate silver linings. This technique is clinically proven to reduce stress and anxiety.
Step 3 – Build Trust
Trust: Unwavering belief. Confidence in reliability. Surrender.
Trust takes a long time to build– yet it can vanish in a flash. I have not always kept my word with myself. I have not always been honest with myself. And so it has taken extra work and consistency to re-establish trust with myself.
Now, I feel confident in the choices I make. I spend less time analyzing and more time tuning into my natural inspiration. And although it could be random, I find myself experiencing good luck with astonishing frequency.
Two ideas for establishing strong trust with your subconscious:
- Honor your intuition. Go with your gut for life’s daily decisions. When you get the urge to take the scenic route home– do it. When you suddenly think about a distant friend and feel like reaching out– do it without hesitation. Trust yourself to make the right decision without over-analyzing every possible outcome.
- Keep your promises to yourself. Build trust and consistency by keeping the smallest possible promises at first. Be extremely selective and careful about what you commit to doing– because you actually have to do it.
To be honest, all of these efforts are still a work in progress (as they should be). Even so, the benefits have been immediate–
I’ve never felt better and more alive.
The Benefits of Seducing Your Subconscious Mind
These days, I wake up feeling inspired. My daily actions are in alignment with my ultimate intentions. And my anxiety and depression have improved dramatically.
Most people will never pursue a deep relationship with their subconscious. But the ones who do will unlock an invigorating new way to experience life:
- Insights will flood your awareness. You’ll start to effortlessly see connections and possibilities you never noticed before. You’ll see reality clearly for what it is, and release attachments to specific outcomes.
- Motivation will intensify. Self-discipline will come more easily in the areas that matter most, and you’ll simultaneously release the attachments that no longer serve your higher purpose.
- Optimism will flow through you naturally. You will see that potential positive outcomes are infinite and within reach. Even when the outlook isn’t favorable, you will choose to focus on the most positive perception available to you.
- Wellness will be effortless. You will enjoy the process of providing your body with fresh healthy food, movement, sleep, and care. Any unhelpful cravings will fade away.
- Compassion will expand. You’ll find it easier to be kind and patient with the people around you, especially when they are struggling with their own emotions. Conflicts will dissolve before they take root. New connections with others will become available to you.
Honoring The Power of Your Subconscious Mind
It’s tempting to fixate on the problems outside of your control, all while ignoring your own inner power.
But if you are serious about living a fulfilling life– you must improve your relationship with your subconscious mind.
With your love and support, the power of your subconscious mind is infinite, poised to help you take inspired actions toward your dream life.
You just have to make the first move.